As you are aware from previous posts, I was bullied at school (and even university), both verbally and via social media. This is how I dealt with it and my advice to anyone going through the same thing.
DISCLAIMER: My advice is drawn from my own experiences and may not help everyone/anyone else. Always tell someone if you are being bullied!
1. My first bit of advice is NEVER rise to the bully’s level. You’re better than them (although don’t tell them that, it’ll just piss them off) – don’t be rude, nasty or even begin to bully them back. You want to take the moral high ground so you can come out on top.
2. If possible, don’t show any sort of reaction. If you show that you’re upset or angry at what they are saying, it’ll spur them on. They want a reaction, especially if they’re bullying you for the LOLZ.
3. Tell them. They might not even realise they’re bullying you and just think it’s a bit of banter, especially if it’s someone in your friendship group. If that’s the case, you could ask a friend to quietly let them know they’re being a bit rude or you could sit them down yourself if you’re confident enough.
4. Try not to take it personally, even though the bully is probably being personal. They might not believe the things they’re saying and it’s almost certainly not true, so it’s all for effect. Know that you’re amazing and don’t believe the lies about yourself. Stay confident!
5. If the bullies are harassing you on social media, block them immediately. Don’t stick around for an argument (I know it’s tempting to defend yourself) because it’ll just make you feel worse – the bully will always find something to tease you about no matter what you say. Stay off it for a while if it’s getting you anxious and definitely avoid sites where you can receive anonymous questions or comments.
6. If you’re good at comebacks, use them. But I mean REALLY good. So good that you’ll embarrass the bully in front of people. If you’re not 100% perfect at mastering the art of the comeback, don’t try this because you’ll end up embarrassing yourself.
7. Lastly and most importantly, find someone to talk to. Whether it’s a family member, teacher or friend, you should always tell someone if you’re being bullied, ESPECIALLY if it’s physical. You can also tell the police if you are assaulted in any way. Keep a log of everything that happens so you have a written timeline to show someone.
I hope that this post can help someone in the future. Link me to your bullying storytimes if you have any and remember you are a strong person who is so much better than any bullies ❤